15 mistakes newlyweds always make
Once one announces their engagement, there are going to be a million people telling the individual what to do and how to do it. Some advice will be good, while some, not so much. It is just as valuable to understand what not to do. To assist with the stressful planning process, this guide has been compiled to offer some tips so that you and your partner don’t wind up making a wedding mistake that you’ll quickly regret.
Not buying a wedding subscription box
First of all, let’s be clear. This article is not suggesting that one’s wedding is a mistake, but rather a guide to help the newly engaged avoid making planning mistakes such as this first one. Many brides create their registry far too late in the game and miss out on the best wedding subscription boxes. These amazing gifts are meant to be given early as they are jam-packed with wedding items that help one plan and celebrate as the big day approaches.
Next on our list of wedding mistakes to avoid is getting too excited and announcing one’s wedding en masse far too early. The first consequence is that the important people in one’s life may feel slighted that they weren’t told personally. One’s immediate family and close friends should celebrate the big news first. The second issue is that one’s wedding could seem so far away that guests will fail to schedule time off work.
This is one of the more critical wedding mistakes to avoid. It’s really easy to get swooped up in a theme. Sometimes, one may feel it’s appropriate to dictate every square inch of guests’ outfits so that they look good in photographs. However, this puts a lot of pressure on everyone and will likely to result in a collective bad time.
Photography faux pas
One of the more common wedding planner problems is over-scheduling photographers. The most beautiful, romantic photos are of the candid variety. But, that’s never going to happen if one has scheduled every minute of their activity. Allow them the flexibility to roam around and relax. That’s when they do their best work.
Too many flowers
Ok, so there really is no such thing as too many flowers. However, too many flowers in one place is a wedding mistake that many tend to make, particularly regarding the bouquet. Having too many flowers results in an over-abundance of colour and texture and tends to overpower the wedding gown one spent so many hours choosing.
Doing everything alone
The best tips for wedding planning involve making one’s life easier and the wedding a smashing success. This is one of them. Many brides choose to opt-out of hiring a wedding planner to save a bit of money. The truth is, one won’t save that much when they factor in all of the variables. On top of that, one will be spending hours upon hours ripping their hair out trying to pull everything together.
Every bride wants to look good in her gown. Possibly the most important “not to do” tip for the bride to be is to be smart about it. A long-term plan can work wonders, but a crash diet will make one do exactly that: crash. Plan a regiment that includes sensible food, progressive exercise and lots of hydration for best results.
As a soon-to-be newlywed, many in one’s circle are going to be offering them wedding tips that pressure them into the newest trends. One shouldn’t feel like they have to rock that updo just because they say so. This is your day.
Perfection requires communication when it comes to the wedding’s fine and large details. Maybe one doesn’t want kids at their wedding. Perhaps one adores kids and welcomes all. Maybe one has a kids’ section with a dedicated “babysitter” to keep them all entertained. Whatever one’s decided policy, make sure that it’s crystal clear when inviting guests.
As a wedding rule, one shouldn’t their vendors. So many people are going to be working hard to make sure that your dreams turn into reality. Just because one is paying them doesn’t mean that they aren’t human. It’s proper wedding etiquette for the newlyweds to provide them with a meal and a drink or two. Make them feel as though they’re part of the party and they’ll return the favor by giving you 110%.
Most fiancés want to save money, it’s natural. However, it’s unwise to satisfy one’s weddings needs with people who are not qualified to do the job. One can save a lot of money by getting their nephew to DJ, their aunt to bake the cake or their cousin to take the photographs. But, are they really good at it? Is it worth it?
Another important wedding planning tip for those engaged is to put time limits on things, specifically the toasts. It feels great to have one’s friends and family raise a glass and offer their best advice and wishes. However, this can easily get out of control. One should either decide who gives the toasts or, at the very least, let their guests know that open-toast time has a curfew.
Whether one realises it or not, this day belongs to the parents too. They raised the newlyweds and provided them with the convictions that led to choosing them husband or wife. It’s a bittersweet day as they “let you go”. One of the best wedding tips out there is to make it clear that one realises and appreciates this.
A way too open bar
Drinks eat up the lion’s share of the wedding budget. Some opt for a cash bar to prevent this. If one does have the means to provide an open bar, go for it. Guests will love it! But, it’s far too easy for cousin Tony to get carried away and make a fool of himself. Implement a limit to prevent a viral YouTube moment from happening.
The number one mistake that newlyweds make is forgetting to have fun! The most common wedding planner advice is to reserve time to enjoy yourself. It’s tremendously easy to get wrapped up in all of the details and forget you are celebrating. One should always remember why they are there in the first place!
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